"It's so big!"
I'm staring at my friend Helen's engagement ring. It's a three stone ring, two carats total, one carat center and two half carat accents. The quality, the cut, the color, etc, it was all very beautiful. She's a lucky girl. The ring is beautiful, her fiance is a good guy, he works hard and he was my boyfriends best friend. They got married a few weeks ago, they're good for each other.
"It's a one and a half carat center diamond." My cousin holds her hand out to Steven. The ring sparkles, she's been married for a two years at this point, "If you ever ask her to marry you, it's going to have to be bigger then this." I'm mortified, Steven and I had been dating for all of six months. Steve just smiles politely.
Suddenly we have to contend with all of our friends and families getting married while the two of us are still just dating. It isn't enough that there are all those big scary celebrities and their hundred thousand dollar pink,yellow,maroon diamond engagement rings. Now he's being pressured by the other rings around us? I might never get engaged to him in that case! (just kidding btw)
Ever hear the saying about how a man has to purchase a ring that's bigger then the girl's best friend's? I don't really think that the size of the ring matters, I know people who are divorced who got incredibly large rings and some with small rings. The same goes for successful marriages as well. So does size really matter? Steve and I have discussed the size of the ring, not so much the act of marriage since we both know we want to wait. But the size, arguing jokingly about the amount of diamonds involved, cut, clarity, etc. (My preferred is single solitaire or Tiffany Novo setting, His is three stoned classic) It's good to have someone so loose about the situation because we both do want the same thing, just not quite yet.
So the question is, does the size of the ring matter to you? Or like me do you just hope he'll ask. =)
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I always thought it was the love in the marriage that mattered, not the ring or possessions. Huh.
Well, I guess it goes to show... my parents will have been married for nearly 35 years, and all they have are simple gold bands... that's it. :)
This ring issue can be really a tough one when it comes to relatives, peers and family. I agree it is the love that really matters not the ring or how big the diamonds are. Did you know that the Russian diamonds can be big, sparkling yet cheap?
Anyway, it is just a token, a symbol so unless your SO can afford to splurge, have fun, otherwise keep your expectations balanced. My SO said that he'll let me choose but I'm simple and all I want is just him and nothing else, no ring, no diamond.
My diamond is a .5 carat center stone, with tiny pave side stones that also equal .5 carats. I didn't want anything bigger. I love my ring. I love it even more because Mondo gave it to me. We all want pretty rings (well, most of us), but it's not the most important thing if your finger isn't being ovewhelmed by sparkle. My best friend's ring is a 1ct solitaire princess cut. It's very pretty, but not for me (thus that whole bigger-ring-than-the-best-friend thing is ridiculous.) I really don't think the size matters. Size does not make the relationship. I was just excited that he proposed. Getting a ring I loved was just icing.
-Katie
I find it very strange yet funny that while I'm reading this they have an advertisement on the left for DeBeers engagement rings. lol I never had the dream of getting married. I even have had a board game called "Perfect Wedding" :: goes to puke :: Since I'm the older female out of most of my cousins I think it was a sign to get me started. I never like it though. I had to force my cousin to "steal" it from me (which she took gladly) I'm not sure if I would even want to get engaged. I think it's the fear of settling down with someone. Mind you a man at the bookstore the other day had to nerve to ask me what my sign was, and when I told him, he said, "Yea, you'll never settle... not for a very long time." I felt so offended but then again.... I was reading every astrology book around to see if it was true lol So I'm not too sure if I would care if I got asked or for the ring. To be honest I'd be mad if he even got me a ring. That's how far I am from the thought of marriage.