I believe that if two people love each other and want to get married so be it. No matter their sexual orientation. And if they want to raise a family and are more then qualified for the job. It shouldn't matter. Steven believes otherwise. He was raised in a very conservative fashion and believes that a man and a woman should raise children, nothing differently. We've had many conversations (no shouting involved so it wasn't an argument) about why this may or may not be wrong. I believed that if two people were willing to love a child, that child was going to be raised just fine. He believes that the child needs a mother and a father in order to be raised properly. I countered with the fact that several wonderful people are raised in single parent homes so the lack of one parental unit although potentially detrimental, wasn't such an issue. And in which case, the child with two parents who loved him/her would be raised even better. I know it's a touchy subject but I firmly believe in this ideal that a family consists of people who love each other, no matter the race, or the parental figures and their sexual orientation. We finally did come to one agreement, and that is that love is love and people who love their children will want to raise them right no matter what.
What do you guys/girls think? I know there is no wrong or right answer here. Only opinions.
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I agree with you, wholeheartedly. I think if two people love each other and want to be married, they should. Just as well as two loving people should be allowed to have children. A loving, caring household is the best place to be growing up.
Conversely, a man and woman can provide very negative places to grow up in... just because you are the "socially accepted" family doesn't mean it's a good place to grow up in...
I mean, your mom could be a hooker, your dad could be a drunk/alcoholic, your parents could be abusive, to you or each other, or all, you could be neglected and not cared for, you could be sexually abused.... many things that have happened in the past with a traditional male/female family heads vs. what little we know of homosexual parents.
I had a teacher who was a lesbian and had a partner - each of them had a child and that comprised their family. They were beautiful, happy, sweet little children who were very bright, intelligent and seemed very secure.
So I don't think sexuality really matters in a family as much as personality and love.
Oh, I'm fully on your side in this argument. Completely, 100% agreement from me. Love is love, regardless of gender. Good post.:)
-Katie
At first I was really, really opposed to same-sex couples raising children. I, too, was raised very traditionally and felt that the traditional family was best for raising healthy, well-rounded children. However, my life experiences have changed my mind considerably on this subject. Alone, I give my little boy all the love and stability two parents could give him. In fact, if his father were around, our household would be completely dysfunctional and not conducive for a small child. And being a public schoolteacher, I now understand the importance of kids coming from a nurturing, loving, supportive childhood, regardless of the parents and their sex- because I see the undeniable signs of the lack of love, nurture, and support for these kids.
I see both sides. I agree with the poster above me.
I agree with you completely. There's no way to correctly say that either form of parenting being same or opposite sex will raise the perfect child. But if there is an good understanding and example of love in a household and they are willing and capable to bring a child into the home then there should be no problem with whether it is same sex or opposite sex couple.Â