I found out something extremely amusing about datingish/xanga. On your feedback log you can look into the past four days and see whose been looking at your site and how they happened to navigate there. Apparently my latest post, "The Female Friend." was spotted time and again on google. After a few days of lurking I came back to Datingish and found that my view count had jumped up to, wait for it, that's right, over 400! Those things never happen to me. But at any rate, the feedback log also keeps track of how the person found your sight. IE, google. And it also lets you click on the link that brought the person to your website. Giving you exactly what it was they googled. Some were funny, some weird, and some downright strange. One google was, "he keeps a female friend secret." and yet another was more blatant, "Ex wife prettier then me." It got me thinking. If these people just communicated their feelings to the other person, then they wouldn't be on google trying to figure out what was wrong with their relationship. In this crazy modern world, people are spending less and less time talking to other people about their problems. Instead they seek out "Dr. Phil's", advice columns, psychics, blogs. Even I am guilty of asking google whether or not I was ready to move in with a guy. So what is it about google, or any other form of advice aside from directly asking the person? Is it the sense of security in knowing that they won't be able to judge you or make fun of you for your questions? Is it to obtain opinions without actually letting someone know what is on your mind?
Anyone else ever google love advice?
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I definitely haven't googled love advice, but I do go looking for people who have been in similar situations to me, I look (I suppose?) for sympathy and empathy in others and myself, and I like knowing that whatever is happening to me, I'm not alone, and I'm not crazy.
I mean when you get into an arguement and they think you're so wrong, you do sometimes think "am I the crazy one?!"
This is funny. I haven't but it is interesting.
Now some of the views make sense, even though I do look at my footprint log now and again. (It never matches the "views".)
(Thanks for looking into that and posting the answer. I've always wanted to know but was too lazy to do the research.)
I've googled love issues. Not advice in my own issues. If I want advice I ask friends and put thoughts on here. But I always wonder when I hear about some crazy type of relationship problem or situation, I google to see if people have been through it and how they deal through it. It's something interesting and different.Â
No, I never have either and I think it's really interesting. I also agree that if people really just communicated what they were feeling and thinking to the person they are thinking it about, they would have a much easier time clearing up the issue! Maybe it's that whole vulnerability thing, or fear of doing it tactlessly, or fear of negative reaction.