I have the unfortunate/fortunate, however you want to look at it, luck of working with Steve. The plus side is that I get to see him at work, i know his coworkers and we don't work in the same kitchen so there's no ill will between us. On the downside, he works in the better kitchen and I work in the less good kitchen and now that it's time for me to move up the career ladder, our relationship becomes an issue. The fact that we are seeing each other makes it complicated at work because management is unsure if we should be working in the same kitchen should a conflict arise outside of work that affects our work. I don't really see a problem because Steve and I were coworkers before we started seeing each other outside of work. We have a very different relationship in the kitchen as oppose to at home. In the kitchen we are both cooks, we give each other the same respect and criticisms that each one deserves. We're objective and straight forward, even if feelings are hurt. I'm not afraid to tell him something is salty and he is not afraid to tell me I'm making a mess. That's just how we are in our relationship as well. So I really hope management will not discredit me based on this one fact. I don't know. I do know it pisses me off. They should just reward hard work and good talent, not bring personal life into it.
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heyyy came across your blog and thought i'd leave a comment :)
maybe you should just be straight forward with your boss and approach him/her and tell him your concerns? that you're worried that you may miss out on an opportunity because they're worried you won't be able to keep your professional and personal life separate.
perhaps your boss has had other couples go sour in the work place and affect his business and he is just worried it'll happen again. if you approach your boss and tell him that you can handle it and reassure your boss that you will not let it affect your work ethics or have a negative impact on your quality of work.
also, tell your boss that you always encourage feed back and really appreciate constructive criticism.
it will help to reassure your boss that it's a good idea to move you to the better kitchen, if he feels that he can approach you in the future if there ever IS a problem. that you won't get overly emotional or immature about it. let him know that you WANT to move up in your career and you would love the opportunity to do so.
i think the best thing to do is just be assertive and be straight forward with your boss.
all the best!! :)
@arsenic_and_red_lace@xanga - Thanks for the advice. I spoke to his kitchen manager about it and he gave me the same speech about how we couldn't work in the same kitchen because we were together and I jokingly said I didn't have a ring on my finger, it wasn't a big deal and he said steve ought to propose and I told him firmly, "I don't want a ring right now, I want a career." He's an easy going guy so I think he liked my reply. Let's just cross our fingers. =)